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Child Discipline and Consequences: Parenting Kids with ADHD
By Anthony Kane, Md of Complete Connection Parenting
Parenting kids with ADHD can be a daunting task. Normal child discipline methods, like limits and consequences, just don't work effectively. At least they don't work without some extra help. You see, children with ADHD, OCD or other problems that leave them emotionally stunted have a problem understanding feelings in themselves and others around them. And this lack of recognition often blinds them to impact of their actions. Basically, such a child might take another kid's snack at lunch or scream and yell to go first line. This child fails to register the emotions that are going on around him and doesn't feel like he's done anything wrong. Consequences should only be used with children who know they are doing wrong. This is pretty important because without that realization of wrongdoing, the consequence the child receives is registered as a punishment. And no learning is done. So in order to get your child to this point, you've got to help your son recognize the emotions in the people around him. This is a skill that will last him throughout his life. I'm going to suggest something I call the People Game. It's something you would play in the park, on a bus or even watching TV. The idea is to sensitize your child to the people around him by making him more aware of their emotions. The idea behind the People Game is to start off by asking your son what he thinks another child is feeling. This gets him to realize that first, he`s not alone, and second, that other people might experience emotions. So point to a girl being pushed by her father on the swing and ask what she is feeling. Or what the boy playing with his trucks in the sand is feeling. Or what emotion the boy crying next to his mother on the bus is going through. This first step to get him to recognize feelings is important. You can reinforce that by asking him to show his angry face or his happy place. It can easily become a game that he looks forward to playing. And as he gets older, you can just point to a boy walking a dog and ask your son to tell you a story about him. Encourage him to make up a name for the dog, where they live, what tricks the boy has taught the dog, and so on. The more information he can make up, the more he puts himself in the boy's position, feeling his emotions. This is a strong reinforcement of other people's emotions. This is just a simple game you can play to get your son ready to take that next step of dealing with limits and consequences. When you're ready, I have a video I think you will be interested in. It highlights the most common mistake parents make when using consequences. Find it at http://ccparenting.com/discipline?10086. This short video is free for people like you who are interested in child discipline. Even when parenting kids with ADHD. |
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I read this intel when it was in the screening queue. So when in town today we tried playing the people game. I was relieved that my son figured out the emotions correctly in all cases.  Thank you for this intel.
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